Manage Criticism.

“There is not another who is, or offers, any threat to you. For you are the controller of your own experience. The Art of Allowing, which says, I am that which I am, and I am willing to allow all others to be that which they are, is the Law that will lead you to total freedom—freedom from any experience that you do not want, and freedom from any negative response to any experience that you do not approve of.

When we say it is good to be an Allower, many of you misunderstand what we mean by that, for you think that Allowing means that you will tolerate. You will be that which you are (which by your standards is that which is appropriate), and you will let everyone else be that which they want to be, even if you do not like it. You will feel negative about it; you will feel sorry for them; you may even feel fearful for yourself, but, nevertheless, you will let them be—but in a tolerant fashion.

When you are tolerating, you are not Allowing. They are two different things. One who tolerates is feeling negative emotion. One who is an Allower does not feel negative emotion. And that is a very great difference, for it is the absence of negative emotion that is freedom, you see. You cannot experience freedom when you have negative emotion.

Tolerance may seem to be an advantage for others because you are not hindering them from what they want to do. But tolerance is not an advantage to you, because while you are being tolerant, you are still feeling negative emotion, and therefore, you are still negatively attracting. Once you become an Allower, you will no longer attract into your experience those unwanted things, and you will experience absolute freedom and joy.”

The reason why people would choose things they don’t want is because they are choosing by default. They've learned a vibration, they are unaware of what the vibrational content is until it manifests. It doesn't matter where you are. You have the ability under condition to find a different vibration and reverse whatever the situation is. If you are able to be so selfish that you don’t empathize with a friend in pain, you’re going to connect with Source Energy while you hold this friend who is in pain. Even though your friend is in pain, you’re not going to be focused on that aspect of your friend. So in your connection to Source Energy, as you focus on other aspects of your friend, there is a vibrational stream of energy that actually helps your friend. That is what power of influence is.

- Abraham Hicks (The Law of Attraction)