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An excerpt from: “A Thousand Names For Joy.” By Byron Katie. www.thework.com
Act for the people’s benefit. Trust them; leave them alone. “I trust everyone. I trust them to do what they do, and I’m never disappointed. And since I trust people, I know to let them find their own way. The wonderful thing about inquiry is that there’s no one to guide you, but you. There’s no Guru, no teacher, no parent, who in their great wisdom, shows you all the answers. Only your own answers can help you. You yourself are the way and the truth and the life, and when you realize this, the world becomes very kind.”
“When my daughter Roxanne attended her first ‘The Work’ workshop with me, it was 1993, with a large group of Therapists present. She was working on ‘The Mother from hell’! which was how she had experienced me as she was growing up. She couldn't bear to look at me as she was doing her worksheet; it was hard for her even to hear the sound of my voice. I was the root of her problem, she thought, and I was also her salvation; she had to ask the monster for help, which made her furious. At a certain moment, she became very passionate and got right in my face and said I should have Mothered her differently. I said, That’s not MY job. Mother yourself honey. You be the Mother that you always wanted. Later she told me that was the greatest gift I ever gave her. It turned out to be her freedom.
I know the privilege of Mothering myself. It’s hopeless to see it as anyone else’s job. Here’s what I have told all my children: You have the perfect Mother. I’m responsible for all your problems, and your responsible for all your answers.” “Ultimately there is only you: You are your own suffering, you are your own happiness. What you give is what you receive, and I love that. I am always receiving for myself what I give to others.
Sacrifice is not a word that holds any meaning for me, since in my experience, giving something away doesn't- can’t- mean giving it up. When I give it to you, it’s me I am giving it to. There’s no separation between us.”
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